Tuesday, May 10, 2011

How Do I Do It?

That is, keep my son innocent as long as possible.

I have three-year-old. An immature and innocent little boy whom I'd like to keep that way for a long as I can.

I've been debating switching Aaron's daycare. He's in a great center with great staff. Its drawbacks are its location and the behavior of some of the children.

I know kids are kids and act like kids. I don't mind dirty, screaming, asking questions, and kids who are kids. But I do not like children who are rough. There isn't a no violence policy at Aaron's daycare. I realize kids will be kids, but I don't like seeing children punch each other. Not even not quite 4-year-olds.

One of Aaron's behavior interventionists commented that the children at his daycare seemed high strung. I never thought much of it. But the more I see, the more I think his therapist is right. Kids cry. Mine does, nearly every day. It's expected. But it seems almost every time I picking Aaron up or dropping him off, someone is crying.
Again not a reason to switch him daycares, but I don't want him around kids who use their fists before there words. He will see this enough when he hits kindergarten. He's doesn't need to be around it for the next 2.5 years.

I hesitate to switch him out of his daycare as he has made some connections with the staff and with Eric deploying and his presence being inconsistent when he is posted to a sea going ship. But I don't want him around problematic children either.

I am viewing daycares and putting him on wait lists. I hope I am making the right decision.


jenicini said...

It's a hard decision. It's interesting that the comment was made that the kids seem high strung there. To me that's usually a sign of the environment that is being set up for them. Hugs.

S.I.F. said...

I think it's definitely one of those situations where you have to follow your gut... Follow your gut friend. And find him a new spot!

Ginger said...

I don't know how it is where you are, but here there is a HUGE anti-bullying campaign. I don't think it is every okay for children to hit...no matter how young they are. That being said, sure it is going to happen sometimes. My boys had a horrible day of fighting yesterday and I was constantly putting one or the other in time out and forcing hugs and kisses. Every child is going to have a bad day. But for the school to not have a plan in place to deal with such incidents and for it to be happening enough that you notice it...I don't think that is okay. I think you are making the right decision. There are always going to be bad habits in a daycare/preschool/school setting that kids pick up. But the school and teachers should have a plan for dealing with bad and/or dangerous behaviors. Good luck in your search for a new place!

GreenGirl said...

I wish I would have seen this earlier. Drop me an email...
As you may remember, I work for one of the market leaders in Child Care/Early Childhood.
I would be glad to help you...and perhaps get you off of the wait list and get him enrolled!

Renee said...

Hi Siera!
Thanks for dropping by my blog! Great to talk to a fellow Canadian :) I am actually from Alberta but I recently relocated to Saskatchewan.
I am breast feeding so I will for sure to check before taking any medication ( I am kinda the suck it up type anyways)
You can check out my son's birth story here :)

bibc said...

i taught Pre-K for many years, and if someone is almost always crying everyday and it isn't the same kid who might have their own issues, i'd at least start to question what goes on there when parents aren't in the room. trust your gut, mama knows best and all that jazz.
sorry it took so long for me to answer your question...my husband is a former marine is not enlisted anymore. he will likely get to come home in a little less than 2 months. i cant wait! but i like that he will come home past viability day. it takes a lot of stress off these early weeks and allows me to deal with this time as i will. and he with it as he will i guess. i think we would be driving each other crazy together!!